Can You “Create” your Perfect Mate?

Have you ever created a full specification of the partner you would like to be with?

Sometimes when I ask my clients to do this exercise they shiver at the idea - and that’s mostly because they think of this practice as not being very humane and treating a living and breathing person like an object! Some of them also think that being very specific may restrict (and possibly diminish) the chances of meeting “the right one” as you may miss them if they do not look as you always wanted or do not have the education you wished for, etc. 

Honestly, I get it because… well, I used to think the same! I thought I was clear about what I wanted, but deep inside I was actually very scared to even put down on paper all that I wished and longed for. No wonder I was either single or with someone who could not meet my needs. 

Once I did find the courage (with a little guidance) to actually sit down and envision in the tiniest detail of who I wanted by my side, I was impressed with how it impacted my search for the perfect partner and it wasn’t long before I found the right person for me.

When I go through this exercise now with my clients, I often notice that we are far clearer about what type of a car we want or what are the specs of the newest smartphone or laptop we wish to acquire, than about the type of mate we want. We have a long list of very specific requirements for our house, furniture, holidays, etc, yet when it comes to applying the same principles to looking for someone you wish to possibly spend the rest of your life with, we evade the questions. We may fill up the online questionnaires on the dating websites, but it’s all a big “routinely ticking boxes” exercise, rather than mindfully think about who we want.

So why is being specific so important also in creating the relationship you want?

Think about this exercise like creating the route to a place you want to visit.

When you want to go, to eg. London and you type London in any online map it will show a whole wide area. But if you type a specific post code, it will show you the exact destination. There might be few residents living at the same postcode, but when you get to the area, when you knock on the door listed at the address you want to visit, you will quickly know you are at the right place.  

The same applies to “creating” your perfect mate. 

When you truly know what you want, it will be like zooming in on a map on a specific area. You will be able to search and find exactly what your heart desires and confidently know when you’ve found it.

You will stop settling for less and you will manifest the right relationship. You will attract and be attracted to all the distinctive and unique qualities you desire. You will be in alignment with your vision, with your heart and with your soul calling. 

Have you ever tried to create a list of your perfect partner? What holds you back?

If you need support in this process, feel free to get in touch and I will share how I can help you.